Leave your judgement at the door
Updated: Apr 17, 2019
In the last 13 years, I’ve travelled to over 15 countries. I can't actually figure out how many separate vacations I've taken. I'm going to guess around 30. And at least half of these vacations lasted two to three weeks.
Hate me? Jealous? I’ve gotten used to the snide comments over the years. “Must be nice.” “What, did you win the lottery?” “Do you even work?” I've actually lost friends due to my frequent travelling. I've had people say that they've unfollowed me on Instagram because they're sick of seeing my travel photos while they're "stuck" in Winnipeg.
Would it surprise you that I’ve been a communications and policy analyst with the government of Manitoba for about 10 years? I work full-time hours for a typical government pay cheque, receive my standard vacation allotment, and take very few sick days.
No I don’t have a rich sugar daddy and no I did not inherit a bunch of cash. 90% of my travelling is done with my husband (a fellow wannabe wanderlust) who also works for the provincial government . Okay yes, he makes more money than me but we're certainly not anywhere near doctor or lawyer status. And before you ask, no, we do not have children. Which IS actually a choice. But that’s a rant for another day.
I do have an extra-large black lab named Rue who very much enjoys spending time with her Grandma Chrissy when mom and dad are travelling. There's nothing like the love of a dog and I am so fortunate to know what that love feels like.
And while I don’t have children of my own to mentor or sculpt, giving back to the community is one of my top priorities. I organize two charitable fundraising events annually, volunteering hours of my time raising money for those less fortunate.
And I've had my fair share of grief. I lost my dad suddenly and unexpectedly to cancer when I was 29 years old. He was 58.
I have a Completely. Normal. Life.
So have you run out of ways to judge me yet?
Don’t feel bad, we all do it. We make assumptions about people to justify our jealousy. I do it too. Anytime I see a female on the beach with a rockin bod I say, (sometimes out loud) “She’s got to be like 16" - implying that no female my age could look that good. Or my favourite - when you see a woman in their 30s/40s who looks absolutely incredible with no makeup on you think, "Obviously she's had plastic surgery."
With regards to my frequent travelling, I've heard it all. "Kaylee must never work - those government jobs are so lax." (I work my ass off) "Kaylee MUST have inherited a boatload of cash when her dad passed away." (Absolutely wrong) Or my favourite, "Kaylee really should stop travelling and focus on having a family." (Ummm whaaaat?)
My point - Many of my friends and peers don't know the ins and outs of how I am able to travel for six(ish) weeks of the year. We're so quick to judge (ladies - I'm talking to you) that we don't take the time to actually ask the right questions.
So if you're interested in learning how you can travel more without giving up your entire life, stick with me as I share my secrets.